When Will Domestic Violence End?
We often tend to overlook situations where our due rights are either sabotaged or crippled just because we are born as a Female.My question is very simple for everyone out there, why are we women born to live with the sad truth of growing up tolerating torture and violence? WHY? Be it in any form- physical/mental suffering, rape, sexual assault, throwing acid or honor killing.
It is rightly said in the words of Lundy Bancroft:
“Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out? Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you? Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did? Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you? Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you? Has he ever threatened to hurt you?’If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.”
I would like to share a story of a girl who has been through hell and suffered a great deal, the cause of her pain was her father and brother. Own blood! I won’t name her because of reasons I can’t disclose.
This story is of a girl who was fearless to live her dreams on her own but was time and again reminded by her father that she was nothing but a trash can full of failures in her life. She strived to beat all social and cultural norms just to fulfill her dreams, but guess what? She need not to hide it from anyone but just her FATHER! Father being the man of his rules and principles never allowed her to strive and achieve any of her dreams.
You all must’ve heard that a son is a nothing but a mere reflection of his father. Little did that girl know what destiny had kept for her was chaos. In absence of her father, her brother played the role of all mighty and all dominant. Brothers are known for their overprotective nature for sisters, but in this case, sadly brother was the lead person in making the poor girl become a victim of domestic violence.
The more she demanded to get education the double the physical torment for her. Why is it always next to impossible for a woman only to reach her goals? Why not for a man? After all, both are human beings injected with feelings and life. I’m not saying all families are like that, but I’m only stating a tale of an unfortunate girl who suffered a life of pain solely because she wanted to learn and gain knowledge. Is that fair?
The story of this little girl and million other girls will never end until and unless women don’t raise their voice and do something about it. Domestic Violence today is not a social issue but a social norm! Be it any case, a male is blessed with the right to raise their voice and hands at all platforms. According to a study carried out in 2016 by Human Rights Watch, it is estimated that between 80 to 90 percent of women in Pakistan are subjected to some or other sort of domestic violence. The people of Pakistan definitely need to curtail this endemic social and public health problem.
Let me end my blog with a famous saying of Russell Wilson:
“The more that we choose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.”
Contributed by Tehniat Karim