Sharmeen Obaid’s sister took a trip to the ER. She shared her contact details with the doctor on duty, which is usually the case. He sent her a friend request on Facebook the very next day, which is not usually the case. She felt violated. Her private information was used to make a pass (yes, a friend request is virtual equivalent to a pass) at her by a person whom she met in a professional setting. The woman in question shared it with her sister, who happened to be Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy, and she used her social messaging platform to voice her discomfort.
There are zero boundaries in #pakistan! Last night my sister went to AKU emergency & the doctor who tended to her tried 2 add her on FB 1/2
— Sharmeen Obaid (@sharmeenochinoy) October 23, 2017
The doctor was terminated by Agha Khan University Hospital shortly after for his unprofessional attitude.
Why is that so hard to digest?
Because he has four kids – whom he should’ve thought about before trying to befriend a complete stranger for reasons only known to him – or because he didn’t ‘physically’ cause discomfort to the lady?
What is highly disturbing is that Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy is being ridiculed for creating a ‘fuss’ over a Facebook friend request. Some of the responses were so bizarre that we couldn’t help but laugh, for therapeutic purposes of course.
This particular one had our jaws hit the floor…
After receiving many friend request from both thin & fat girls today, I fear I may have been raped. 😳 #Harassment
— Shehryar Taseer (@shehryar_taseer) October 27, 2017
How desensitized have we become towards things like harassment, sexual or otherwise, that we can joke about being raped, and get away with it? Not only is Shehryar Taseer’s tweet disgusting, but what’s most shocking is that not one person called him out for it! Instead they laughed along.
Others were hilariously absurd in their absolute daftness.
Women should follow Islamic principles to save themselves from men’s exploitation and abuse.
— Ansar Abbasi (@AnsarAAbbasi) August 6, 2017
So sending a friend request is considered as sexual harassment now ! >_<
‘Poke’ karne pe direct jail hai#SharmeenObaid
— Usman Kazmi (@Uxman_Kaxmi) October 25, 2017
What a time to live on earth. Hamara kutta kutta, apka kutta tommy!
— M Awais Jadoon (@majadoon) October 24, 2017
— Hassan Ahmed (@imhassanahmed) October 24, 2017
While some bordered on mean and hurtful.
Attention kesy milygeh ? oscar kesy milyga ? noble prize kesy milyga ?
yeh formula hai in sb ka..
— Dk4K (@likedk4k) October 24, 2017
You must be grateful to the doctor as he gave you really good stuff for next documentary. “A Girl in the Ward”
— Usman Ranjha (@osmanranjha) October 24, 2017
Like everyone else, women are human and each has their own boundaries, which when breached, makes them feel uncomfortable. I cannot say what makes you feel harassed anymore than you can say what makes me feel violated.
Founder of Yummy Mummy Network, Mishayl Naek, very aptly says, “Shame on you who have sat there said “it’s not a big deal”, it’s not up to you to decide at which point a women feels invaded. It’s not up to you to decide what’s an appropriate level of discomfort. #metoo means #notyou in Pakistan.”