7 Reasons, you’re putting in more effort than your partner in a relationship.

Feeling like you are giving more than your partner is a very frustrating situation that can definitely wear on a relationship.

One of the reasons that it’s so common is because people have different needs. Often we give to our partners in the exact way that we want them to give to us. Rather than follow their cues we assume that they have the same needs as we ourselves do.

I’ve watched so many friends think that they can change someone by just giving and giving and I’ve done the same. But it rarely works.

But how can you tell if you’re giving more than the other person? It can be tricky.  If someone is always getting the attention and the emotional support, then the relationship is one-sided. So make sure you’re honest with yourself about what your relationship really looks like.

Here are the signs you’re giving more than they are.


They Expect You To Fit Into Their Schedule

If your partner is only willing to see you at times that are convenient for them, something is up. If your partner feels that you are not necessary or important in their life, they will accord you little of their time in their schedule. Sure, everybody’s busy but compromise is key in a relationship.


They Drain You Emotionally

If you’re giving too much, your body can probably feel it. Soon, you’ll end up feeling tired from it and like you just don’t have the emotional resilience anymore. Emotionally sensitive people and empaths often do not pick up on these cues right away. You need to watch out for yourself.


They Don’t Integrate You Into Their Lives

If someone isn’t putting effort into a relationship, they may not care about making you a real part of their life. They will not introduce you to people that are important in their life like friends and family, even though you have been together for some time.


You Clean Up Every Mess

If you find that you’re doing all of the emotional work — and the actual work around the house — then something’s amiss. Your partner expects you to do everything for them. You may have to ask them multiple times to do something and they may do so grudgingly and possibly make you feel guilty in the process.


They Get Defensive

Nobody’s perfect, but your partner needs to be open to criticism and concern that they’re taking advantage of you if you approach them about it. If they get defensive, that’s a clue that they’re going to just keep doing it.


They Pass The Blame

The blame game is something that has caused relationships to crumble for years. If your partner blames you for everything, then it’s time for you to speak up, share your perspective and ask them to listen to your point of view. They’re just using you as an emotional dumping ground and it’s not OK.


They Won’t Make An Effort With Your Life

Whether it’s spending time with your friends, bonding with your parents, or even just showing up to the work Christmas party — there are sometimes when you want your partner to step up to the plate. If they won’t do this, they are not being a supportive partner. Relationships should progress, not stay stagnant. If you feel like you’re the only one putting yourself out there, you deserve better.


It’s not easy to admit you’re giving more than they are, because you want to think that they care just as much as you do. But you need to take care of yourself. If you’re giving more than they are, go find someone who will meet you in the middle.

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